F4: Why You Need a Passion Outside of Your Paycheck

I remember when my dad was in his 40s. While most people his age were focusing solely on their careers, he decided to pick up a guitar. He said that work was fine, but he needed a creative outlet. He did not just learn a few chords; he formed a band that ended up touring regionally. After more than 35 years with the same company he retired, and still plays the guitar almost every day. Seeing him find that level of passion and joy outside of his daily responsibilities taught me a vital lesson. It showed me that we are meant to be more than just our job titles.

Coming off my year on autopilot, I realized I needed to find my own version of that guitar. For me, that meant starting weight training and creating this website. Sharing my experiences on this blog and social media has become a source of fulfillment that is entirely separate from my professional function. It is something I do because it challenges me and gives me a sense of accomplishment that a paycheck cannot provide. It recharges my battery in a way that passive rest never could.

Fulfillment looks different for everyone. I know people who have pushed their physical limits by running the rim to rim at the Grand Canyon. I know others who have found peace in the precision of baking or the discipline of competitive target shooting. The common thread is that these activities are separate from work. They are not chores, and they are not done for the sake of a boss or a client. They are done for the soul.

If your entire identity is wrapped up in your job, you are in a vulnerable position. When work goes poorly, your whole world feels like it is collapsing. Fulfillment provides you with a secondary identity. It allows you to be a guitar player, an athlete, a baker, or a writer. This variety makes you a more resilient and interesting person. It gives you a reason to look forward to the hours outside of the office.

As you look at your schedule for the rest of this year, I want you to find your guitar. What is the one thing you can do that makes you feel most alive? It does not have to be a grand gesture like a regional tour or a canyon run, but it must be intentional. Make space for the things that fulfill you, and you will find that you have more energy for your family, your faith, and your career.

I invite you to share what brings you fulfillment. What is the one thing you do that makes you feel most like yourself? Follow me on Instagram @myfriendsdad to join the discussion on how we can all find more joy in the journey.