The First Pillar: Why Faith Requires More Than Just Good Intentions

When I sat down to organize the 7 Fs for this year, there was no question about which one came first. Faith is the starting point. However, I want to be honest about a mistake I have made in the past. There were times in my life where I thought I could remain faithful on my own without the community of the church. I found out the hard way that it simply does not work.



You need a community. You need the support of others who are striving for the same goals, and you need to consistently hear and learn the Word. For 2026, my personal commitment is to remain an engaged participant in Mass. It is not enough to just show up and sit in a pew. Intentional living means being present, listening, and actively participating in the life of the parish.

In the professional world, we talk constantly about the importance of finding a mentor. We look for someone who has walked the path before us to provide guidance and accountability. Why should our spiritual lives be any different? I highly suggest that people find a religious mentor in the same way they would seek a mentor in business.



There is a biblical precedent for this kind of support. Jesus sent his apostles out in pairs. This was not an accidental choice. Drawing on the tradition that required two witnesses for confirmation, he provided them with support, accountability, and credibility. It gave them companionship and a model for how to share the work of ministry. We are not meant to carry the weight of our faith alone.

Just as the apostles had their pairs, we need partners in our spiritual journey. My wife is my partner in spirituality. Having her by my side provides a level of accountability and shared purpose that makes my faith stronger. Whether your partner is a spouse, a close friend, or a dedicated mentor, having someone to walk with ensures that you do not drift when things get difficult.



Many people substitute God with false idols like money, power, or career success. They may even tell you to avoid church because of the flaws they see in other people. But comparing imperfect humans to the Creator is a fallacy. We do not go to church because we are perfect. We go to church because we are not. We go to learn, to improve, and to strengthen ourselves alongside our partners and our community.

If you are navigating the early years of your career or taking on the weight of leadership, you need a North Star that does not move. For me, that is my Catholic faith. It is the foundation for every other pillar of my life.



I encourage you to look closely at what you are prioritizing today. Find a community that teaches the truth, seek out a spiritual mentor, and find a partner to walk with you. It will change the way you handle every other area of your life. For thoughts on leadership and living with purpose, follow me on Instagram @myfriendsdad.